Physical Beauty and Love.
Many people would ask "what's the relationship between love and physical beauty? How do they even relate? " You'd be really shocked to know that the relationship is very strong. People may reject actions of love and even friendships because of what people might have said to them or because they do not feel comfortable with themselves and so they're not sure if people would love them that way. I'd like to share with you a personal experience.
"Do people really love me? "..."Does anybody even love me?". I asked myself these questions very often and I sought answers within me. Fact is, No matter how strong and independent we think we are, we all need love. We need people or at least, someone to show us love all the time, it helps to keep one's sanity in check.
For a long time, I couldn't come to terms with the idea that people cared about me or wanted to be around me, therefore, I declined every move and conversation that seemed to look like love(when I talk of love, I'm talking of love generally and not just relationship-wise) because it was almost unbelievable that someone in their right senses would ever think to love someone like me who wasn't the prettiest thing alive. I denied people access to me physically and emotionally, little did I know that many people sincerely longed to meet me, be friends with me. I shied away from public gatherings, I didn't want to attend birthday parties,even as a child, and I didn't want to meet people because I didn't want to hear their hurtful comments. I thought the only people on earth who loved me regardless was my family, and sometimes, I doubted that too.
I grew up with the worst mindset a child could have, I wasn't sure if unconditional love really existed and all I wanted was just to be by myself. People tried to reach me, but, I shut them all out because I thought it was all pity or worst still, pretence and I couldn't survive with such knowledge as I never wanted to be a charity case or be loved out of pity. But now, the question I ask myself is, "how would I have known if they loved me genuinely or if it was sheer pity since I didn't even give them a chance?". Thing is,paranoia was the order of the day ,what I had been told in the past kept playing in my head whenever I met new people. So I thought I'd never be accepted or loved by anyone at all, but, that is in the past;that is what I used to think.
Well, What do I think of acceptance and love now? I think people are out there in the world bursting with sincere emotions, looking for whom to share their love with, looking for YOU. Many people want to love you, if only you'd let them, and not just because of your beauty. A few people might have cared and talked about your physical flaws but trust me, more people care about what is inside of you and not just your face or body. Personally, when I meet people, I want to meet their knowledge of the world and life, not their eyes or their lips(lol). It's really important if we begin to see more than the outside and more of the inside. We should also look beyond people's physical flaws and appreciate their physical perfections.
Anyway, if you might have been through some challenges with your physical beauty when you were younger or even presently, it's important to note that people love you, give everyone a chance, and you'll find the people who really love you.
P. S: you can drop your questions and comments,be sure I'd read them. You can also contact me on IG @o.j.o.m.a_ or fb @Pamelagold Ojoma Hassan. Thank you.
"Do people really love me? "..."Does anybody even love me?". I asked myself these questions very often and I sought answers within me. Fact is, No matter how strong and independent we think we are, we all need love. We need people or at least, someone to show us love all the time, it helps to keep one's sanity in check.
For a long time, I couldn't come to terms with the idea that people cared about me or wanted to be around me, therefore, I declined every move and conversation that seemed to look like love(when I talk of love, I'm talking of love generally and not just relationship-wise) because it was almost unbelievable that someone in their right senses would ever think to love someone like me who wasn't the prettiest thing alive. I denied people access to me physically and emotionally, little did I know that many people sincerely longed to meet me, be friends with me. I shied away from public gatherings, I didn't want to attend birthday parties,even as a child, and I didn't want to meet people because I didn't want to hear their hurtful comments. I thought the only people on earth who loved me regardless was my family, and sometimes, I doubted that too.
I grew up with the worst mindset a child could have, I wasn't sure if unconditional love really existed and all I wanted was just to be by myself. People tried to reach me, but, I shut them all out because I thought it was all pity or worst still, pretence and I couldn't survive with such knowledge as I never wanted to be a charity case or be loved out of pity. But now, the question I ask myself is, "how would I have known if they loved me genuinely or if it was sheer pity since I didn't even give them a chance?". Thing is,paranoia was the order of the day ,what I had been told in the past kept playing in my head whenever I met new people. So I thought I'd never be accepted or loved by anyone at all, but, that is in the past;that is what I used to think.
Well, What do I think of acceptance and love now? I think people are out there in the world bursting with sincere emotions, looking for whom to share their love with, looking for YOU. Many people want to love you, if only you'd let them, and not just because of your beauty. A few people might have cared and talked about your physical flaws but trust me, more people care about what is inside of you and not just your face or body. Personally, when I meet people, I want to meet their knowledge of the world and life, not their eyes or their lips(lol). It's really important if we begin to see more than the outside and more of the inside. We should also look beyond people's physical flaws and appreciate their physical perfections.
Anyway, if you might have been through some challenges with your physical beauty when you were younger or even presently, it's important to note that people love you, give everyone a chance, and you'll find the people who really love you.
P. S: you can drop your questions and comments,be sure I'd read them. You can also contact me on IG @o.j.o.m.a_ or fb @Pamelagold Ojoma Hassan. Thank you.
Wow!
ReplyDeleteThis is really gold.
I love it!!!