Beyond Her Imperfections.

I spent a long part of my life mopping at the ill talks I had received from people about myself but trust me, I really regret it. It was hurtful, yes, but I really should have looked beyond it. I should have spent more time working on my potentials and the woman I hungrily wanted to become. Now, I always call myself a bundle of designs because I know I carry more than I know, more than I have seen. This is what I should have focused on from the initial. It isnt too late anyway, but, I should have realized it earlier.
It's disheartening that many girls with so much in them are going around everyday without even knowing it because they've been told they aren't beautiful. It's really difficult to speak or step out of the shell, when you feel like nobody wants to see you,so,they are limited to this thought and want nothing to do with the world.
There were many times I had important suggestions to make, brilliant contributions but I shut up and sat in my seat because I didn't want anybody looking at me. All I thought was, if they looked at me, they would see my lips, eyes, height, they would see I wasn't beautiful and they would laugh, so I would swallow my suggestions and keep them to myself. Something I realize now is, my contribution might have changed something important in the world, so, I've dragged an organization or the world itself, one step back.
You never know what one word from you can do for the world, for different industries and fields.I began to speak up and let my voice be heard, because I was bursting with ideas people needed to hear. I had to break the shell totally, because if it remained there, one day, I'll crawl right back in.
I chose to ignore whatever I heard of my imperfections and focused and worked on what I heard and saw about my perfections. One thing is, no matter the negative statement you get, be sure to hear double the number of positive statements because many people are looking for the good in you and not a way to put you down. You're more than your face or body, don't restrict yourself to that because no matter how beautiful you get, people would still want to meet the inner you. You spend time on looking beautiful, spend more time on being beautiful. When you decide to be beautiful, people would see nothing in you, but beauty, tons of finesse.
Well, I've ignored the bad and accepted the good(only good vibes here, lol) I'm working on my personality, I've looked beyond my imperfections,i suggest you do same too. Thank you!

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