girls advocacy

Hey guys, I've got some really great news I'd love to share with you today... Well, I'm officially in love, with me and I'd love to share the story of how I fell in love with myself. So,I started to fall in love with myself when I realized there could be only one me and so,I am the most beautiful version of me. I fell in love when I stopped seeking approval or public opinion about what I looked like or what I could be like and I fell head over heels when I realized that I could be who I wanted as long as I worked towards it and that my opinion about myself is the only opinion that really counts. Sincerely, it wasn't easy, it took me so much time to come around and come to terms with the fact that this girl is the only copy of herself on planet earth and in the entire universe. For years i was so conscious about being beautiful that it made me not beautiful, I'd worry so much that the first thing I thought of every morning was whether I looked okay to face the w...

Sometime ago,I mentioned how I was so not confident in myself and had great low self esteem and how I couldn't speak in public because I felt so ugly all the time and did not want to hear it anymore.This had me in my seat all the time.Well,I'd tell you this was not good for me at all as I lost so much which I'm still in the process of regaining. I'd like to share with you what happened sometime ago.Due to my struggle with self esteem, I never spoke in class.I'd sneak in and out of class and prayed everyday not to be noticed. Questions would be asked in class, I'd know the answers to the fullest even with analogies,but I'd prefer to keep quiet. I lost so many marks to this,especially in my first and second years in the higher institution,but it did not bother me since I thought I wasnt hurting anybody,little did I know I was hurting myself. One day in school,we were asked to collect some documents from a lecturer and so,we went in one after another.Well,it g...

I heard someone say sometime that not everyone is beautiful. I've also heard that people who say "beauty resides in the inside" are ugly physically and that's why they keep singing that song. Well,permit me to refute and argue these perspectives. What do I think??first off,I think everyone is beautiful,like I said in my last post,beauty is what we call it so if you think I'm not beautiful,its fine,its your perspective,all I know is,I've got the most perfect body size and shape and the most perfect face because no matter what any other person does, she'd never be me. That is why,I take out time to celebrate God's masterpiece,ME. I used to feel like people had the final say about my beauty,but what I know now is that,I have the first and last say,their opinions can come in between,but I own the introduction and conclusion,(girl,what's more important than that??) If you don't feel great about yourself,nobody will think great of you. Over the ye...

One question that has always been on my mind is "what is beauty?" The word "beauty",its meaning and standards, to me, seems and feels more like a perception. It is what an individual perceives it to be. I may think beauty to be about a person's facial features and body shape while another person thinks it to be either of the two or individual qualities and characters. In all,we all have our definitions and standards by which we classify and judge beauty. I'd give an example of colours ,I love dark colours, But I've met people who detest dark colours but love anything bright and attractive. That established, back to beauty, many times without number,I've met people and thought them exceptionally beautiful but then,someone else sees the exact same people and says "she's not all that, but she's cute". I may love someone's nose or eyes,while another person doesn't fancy what I see..now,that's total perception; I'm speak...

I spent a long part of my life mopping at the ill talks I had received from people about myself but trust me, I really regret it. It was hurtful, yes, but I really should have looked beyond it. I should have spent more time working on my potentials and the woman I hungrily wanted to become. Now, I always call myself a bundle of designs because I know I carry more than I know, more than I have seen. This is what I should have focused on from the initial. It isnt too late anyway, but, I should have realized it earlier. It's disheartening that many girls with so much in them are going around everyday without even knowing it because they've been told they aren't beautiful. It's really difficult to speak or step out of the shell, when you feel like nobody wants to see you,so,they are limited to this thought and want nothing to do with the world. There were many times I had important suggestions to make, brilliant contributions but I shut up and sat in my seat because I did...

Many people would ask "what's the relationship between love and physical beauty? How do they even relate? " You'd be really shocked to know that the relationship is very strong. People may reject actions of love and even friendships because of what people might have said to them or because they do not feel comfortable with themselves and so they're not sure if people would love them that way. I'd like to share with you a personal experience.  "Do people really love me? "..."Does anybody even love me?". I asked myself these questions very often and I sought answers within me. Fact is, No matter how strong and independent we think we are, we all need love. We need people or at least, someone to show us love all the time, it helps to keep one's sanity in check. For a long time, I couldn't come to terms with the idea that people cared about me or wanted to be around me, therefore, I declined every move and conversation that seemed to ...